Whose life is it anyway? I often ask myself that same question. Why do we burden ourselves with more than our share of responsibility? No one asked us to do it, no one put a gun to our head and forced us to do it, we volunteered! Why? We thought we could do it and we really wanted to. But when we finally squeezed out the time and energy to do the good deed, we were spent, frustrated, angry and resentful at ourselves because we didnt have the foresight to just say NO and feel good about it.
Am I weak? Am I not a caring human being? If I say NO I might lose a friendship or their trust and respect. Maybe they wont be there for me if I need them. Our internal dialogue can be our own worst enemy.
Developing a strong relationship with your partner, a nurturing relationship with friends, a loving relationship with your children, and a healthy relationship with yourself all takes time and plenty of energy. The latter is usually the least priority, but it should be first and foremost on your list.
Yes, its a wonderful feeling and truly rewarding to help those close to us fulfill their dreams and desires in the journey of life, but at whose expense?
Lack of self-worth, self-respect and self-preservation can manifest itself in many unpleasant ways. We are not machines that can produce the same output day-in and day-out. We need to learn where to draw the line and start setting a few boundaries. If we dont make the investment into our own mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well being, there will be no return.
Its no mystery that theres no magic pill or potion that can replace time spent on nurturing oneself. Remember, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. So lets try to juggle our hectic prearranged lifestyle into a more balanced act. Its time for a cool change
For every yes let there be a no. Stop trying to please everyone and start pleasing yourself. Strive for realistic deadlines. Dont make a promise you cant keep. Set attainable goals. Let go of expectations of yourself and others. Spend time in nature. Be true to yourself and more confidence and a greater sense of self will shine through.
So ask yourself, whos life is it anyway?